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How you use your time is a significant contributor to the results you get in your life.
It is by no means the only ingredient in your success formula, but it matters.
One high-value way of using your time is by surrounding yourself with people who care about their personal growth and who are walking their talk.
Death and loss have been front and center lately.
Michael’s father passed away 2 years ago. I lost my father one year ago this past February. My mother passed away just a little over a month ago.
I know the title may go against everything you’ve thought or heard. But most men will follow their heart right off of a cliff. Our invitation to you is, instead of following your heart, begin to lead with it.
We are often asked about our views on goal setting; “Is it effective? Should I do it? How far out should I set goals for?”
The simple answer is you must know where you want to get to in order to know if what you are doing now is working. But most where most people get tripped up in goal setting is not that actual goal itself, but the foundational beliefs in which their goals are built upon.
Two ingredients are absolutely critical…
This image reminds of a time recently when I was about to sit for a morning meditation. I was on my morning walk around a two-mile path in the rental space I had for the week. The path was on a man-made island. As is usually the case in this area, the weather was bright, sunny, and just a bit cool. Typical Miami winter morning.
This past weekend The Vital Guide was invited to speak and run a sweat lodge in Iowa. It was an amazing experience with a really incredible group of men. We spoke of creating space in our lives through self-awareness and how that allows us to create new possibilities and declarations for ourselves.
A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says, "There are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery, and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred, and fear."
In participating in different men’s groups I get to see and experience men being men. Fighting, arguing, posturing, uplifting and supporting each other.
One aspect of working with men and being around men in this way has illustrated a common question.
Having been a coach for over 6 years it’s easy to begin to see patterns and similarities in the people that come to seek our services. With men, we often see a trend that runs underneath the surface but can, and does, show up in many different ways.
Whether it is lost health, unfulfilled relationships, dead-end jobs or basic overall malaise, underneath it all what we really see is that many men have lost their fire.
“Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.”
~ Viktor E. Frankl
In Man’s Search For Meaning, concentration camp survivor and the founder of logo-therapy, Victor Frankl, states that man’s main concern in life is not about finding pleasure, or seeking power, but instead, that of finding meaning.
Whether you agree or not, think about this for a moment.
